Why can’t I get my ex boyfriend back? That’s the million dollar question, isn’t it? You’ve tried to get the man to reconsider his decision to end the relationship but it’s done little good. You’re still alone, he’s moving on and you’re left to wonder whether it’s time to finally give up on him. The problem is that life doesn’t present us with a lot of opportunities to fall deeply in love. You don’t want to regret losing him so unless you’re certain that you can move forward in your life and leave the relationship behind, you owe it to yourself to continue to try and get him back. However, before you call him up yet again and plead with him for another chance, there are a few things you need to be aware of. Unless you fully understand where he is emotionally and what to avoid doing, you’re never going to succeed in winning back his heart.
Don’t Crowd Him After the Break Up
The most common mistake that women make when they are aching to be back with their ex boyfriend is they crowd him. They call him repeatedly or they send him endless text messages all with the intention of getting him to fall back in love. As women, we tend to feel panicked if our love life is in disarray. We want it fixed this moment and to us, the best way to do that is to try and get our ex boyfriend to talk to us again. He doesn’t want or need that. He wants some emotional space to come to terms with the break up and to think about what he really wants for the future. If you’re constantly right there with your heart on your sleeve trying to convince him to take you back, he’ll push you farther away. Do yourself and your ex boyfriend a favor by leaving him alone for at least three to four weeks. Take this time to do things just for yourself. Give him the time he needs and show him that you can live without him. This is crucial and unless you’re willing to lose him for good, you need to walk away for now.
Don’t Continually Try to Make Him Jealous
It’s truly mind boggling how many women think they can play the jealousy card with their ex boyfriend. You can’t. It’s never going to work the way you assume it will. Even though you would be seething with jealousy if you saw him with someone new, that doesn’t mean he will be if the roles are reversed. There’s a very good chance that your ex boyfriend will shut you completely out of his heart if he sees you with another man or even hears about it from someone else. Men don’t want to compete with other men for a girlfriend they’ve already dumped. This isn’t the same scenario as when you two first met. Back then he probably would have been more than willing to fight for you. Now, he’ll view your new relationship as a sign that you’ve moved on and he’ll do the same thing. Don’t date anyone else if you are serious about getting back with your ex. It will only complicate everything if you do.
Don’t Act as Though You Can’t Live Without Him
Whether or not you and your ex boyfriend get back together, you’re going to be just fine. Until you learn how to believe that, you’re going to fawn all over him when you see him, and say things that will show him that you think he’s the be all and end all of your world. He doesn’t want to feel as though your happiness hinges on whether he takes you back. That’s simply too much pressure for any person to have to shoulder post break up. You are a dynamic, interesting woman who can move forward, with or without her ex boyfriend. Once you learn how to absorb that and see it as the truth, your ex boyfriend will as well. Don’t make the mistake of telling him that you miss him so much it hurts or that you can’t sleep without him beside you. Instead, appear happy and satisfied with the life you have now. A positive attitude is going to help you immensely as you learn to deal with the break up and with living as a single woman. Every man wants a woman who is content with the life she has. A man doesn’t want to feel as though he’s the only thing filling a void. He wants to fit into the life you’ve already made for yourself so show your ex that you’re happily rebuilding your life without him. That will not only impress him, it will make him long to be someone who can share in that again.