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My Boyfriend Dumped Me By Text Message! Responding the Right Way to This

My boyfriend dumped me by text message!” I’m getting more and more emails that begin with this phrase recently than ever before. It shouldn’t be surprising, but it is. I realize that most of us use the convenience of text message to correspond with everyone in our lives, including the man we’re involved with, but isn’t there a line of compassion drawn somewhere? Learning that the man you love doesn’t want you anymore via text makes it even more heartless and heartbreaking. When I’m asked by women on my blog or newsletter, how I believe they should respond to this, I always offer the same piece of advice.

Any man who dumps a woman by text message is a coward. I don’t care if he’s three thousand miles away and you two have been balancing a long distance relationship. I also don’t care if he tells you that the reason he did it that way, as opposed to a more honourable approach, because he was himself so distraught. The fact of the matter is that any man, who is worth his weight in a relationship, will take the few moments it takes to end the relationship in person. If that isn’t possible, because of physical distance, than a phone call, at a convenient time, is the next best thing.

Responding to a text message that literally changes your life is daunting. If you’re reading this, I’m assuming that the text has already arrived and you’ve responded. Likely you didn’t hold back what you felt and perhaps you even tried to convince your ex, through text message, that he shouldn’t leave you or that he was making a monumental mistake.

If you have already traveled down that path, don’t fret. What you do from this day forward is what matters the most. You must not allow your boyfriend’s cowardly approach to the break up to undermine who you are as a woman and as a partner. It’s very important that you recognize that it was his decision to take that route to end the relationship. In fact, I believe that you should see it as a sign that he wasn’t strong enough emotionally to do what was really the right thing. In most cases, this is because the man in question wanted to avoid any type of confrontation with his ex in any form. So he takes the easy way out to avoid the risk of her screaming at him, or crying.

Stop Texting Your Ex Boyfriend When You’re Emotional!

If you’ve been texting him since the day he dumped you, stop what you’re doing. By continuing to engage him in a dialogue that started with a break up, you’re essentially giving him all the power that is still there in the failing relationship. Chances are that even though you have no intention of asking him repeatedly why he dumped you, that is exactly what you end up doing. When corresponding with an ex boyfriend, most women allow their good judgement to take a holiday, and they engage in behavior that makes them look pathetic and overly desperate. You do not want this to happen. That’s why you have to stop texting him when you feel upset, sad or angry with him.

There is likely to come a day when he will text you again and start flirting or being overly kind. I advise you to temper your responses to him and don’t fall into the trap of being swept away by old memories or your continued longing for him. If he sends you text messages that makes it seem as though he’s interested in you again, ask him to meet you in person. If he has an excuse for why he can’t, tell him that you’re busy.

You can’t allow him to control you via text message. If a man has toyed with your emotions using this method of communication in the past, don’t allow him to do it again now. You’re the one in control of what happens in your life. Never forget that.

There is actually a great way to use text messages yourself if you want to get the man back. If you’re interested, click here to watch a free video that explains what I mean in greater detail.

How Do I Convince Him Not to Break Up With Me? Shocking Advice for You

You and your boyfriend just don’t seem to be on the same wavelength anymore. You love him, you envision a happy and committed future with one another, but you’re so far apart right now. You’re convinced that he’s going to leave you. He’s distant, moody and he seems to be looking for any excuse to not spend time with you. You find yourself wondering whether there’s anything you can do at this point to convince him not to break up with you. You can’t imagine the pain you’ll feel if he announces at some point that he doesn’t want to be with you anymore. Instead of using all of your emotional energy to try and make the man stay with you, it’s time for you to recognize the benefits to the relationship if he does decide to walk out the door.

When a Woman Chases a Man She Devalues Herself

Each and every time you tell your boyfriend that you can’t live without him, you are essentially saying that he matters more than you. You never want a man, even the man you desperately love, to view you as someone who devalues herself in favor of another. He’ll lose respect for you and eventually his attraction to you will fade. This is often the cause of many relationships falling apart. The man simply reaches a point where he sees his girlfriend as too clingy. If you let your own life slip away because you make your boyfriend the sole focus of your life, the relationship will be doomed.

If he seems to be pulling back, it’s in your best interest to try and not react at all. That’s virtually impossible given the fact that this is the man you utterly adore. However, if you try and hold onto him when he is determined to take a break, you’ll be pushing him out of your life faster and maybe, for good. You must ensure that he sees you as a woman who is so secure within her own life, that she can live without him.

Agree With Him if He Suggests a Break

Most men don’t want to deal directly with the subject of breaking up with their girlfriend. They envision a very difficult emotional situation with her breaking down and pleading for another chance. That’s why many men will suggest a break or some time apart as opposed to a full on break up. The woman sees it as just a short break where they both can evaluate their feelings. For the man it’s much more a first step towards a permanent break up.

If your boyfriend comes to you and tells you that he’d like to take a break, you must pull out all your internal strength and tell him that you agree that it’s a wise idea. It’s best to do this a day or two after he’s said he wants time apart. If you try and respond immediately, your emotions will overtake your better judgment and you’ll be begging him to reconsider which will turn into a nasty, emotional struggle.

When he first mentions the idea of a break, tell him you need a bit of time. Then call him and in as calm a voice as you can muster, explain that you have also been thinking about taking a break. This may feel like game playing at the time, but it’s a way for you to lay the foundation for the two of you to reunite. He’s not going to expect you to respond in this way at all and it will actually give you an advantage as you two head into the break.

Embrace Your Life Without Him

If your boyfriend does decide that some time apart will serve him well, you have to embrace it in order to show him that life does continue without him. Like most women in this situation, you’re going to be tempted to hide yourself away from society so you can replay the better moments of your lost relationship over and over again in your mind. You can do that, briefly. Once you’ve mourned the loss you must jump back into your life, full force. You have to move forward for several reasons; one being that your boyfriend must witness you as a strong, capable and emotionally strong woman.

There’s some sadistic pleasure that many men take in knowing their ex girlfriend can’t get over them. If you don’t leave your apartment other than going to work, your boyfriend will soon learn of that through mutual friends. He’ll know that you’re stuck in the emotional pain of the break up and that will signal to him that you’re still waiting for him to take you back. You have to shift that perception as quickly as possible.

Many relationships that fall apart end up stronger than ever after some time apart has passed. You have the ability to use your boyfriend’s desire for freedom to your own advantage. You can make him feel as though he needs to chase you again by just staying out of his reach. Show your boyfriend your true value by rising above the emotions and drama. Be strong with or without him and his need to have you will overtake him again and soon he’ll be chasing after you trying to convince you to give the relationship, and him, another chance.

I Really Want to Text My Ex Boyfriend! Dealing With This Urge The Right Way

“Help Gillian! I really want to text my ex boyfriend!” I get at least one email a day from women expressing this urge. Some are a bit more frantic than this though. They feel out of control and all they really want is a chance to text their ex to say they miss him or they love him. It feels natural, doesn’t it? After all, you texted him so much when you two were together and now you feel a void. I know that your emotions get the better of you sometimes, but you need to be mindful of what all those random text messages are suggesting to him. If you have any desire to eventually get the man back, you really need to slow down and think before you text!

Here’s what happens when you text your ex boyfriend to tell him you love him. You send the text and you wait breathlessly for him to respond. You want him to say that he can’t live without you and he wants you back. Unfortunately, one of two things actually happen.

  1. He doesn’t respond at all. You stare at your phone for hours and you get nothing from him. You may start to wonder if the message was even delivered. It was. Yes, he is ignoring you on purpose.
  2. He writes back and says, “thank you” or “that’s nice.” Normally those are lovely phrases and we welcome them but obviously not in the case of an ex boyfriend you’ve just spilled your heart out to.

You should never text him to tell him what’s in his heart. He won’t respond in the way that you want. It’s almost guaranteed that his response, or lack of response, will make you feel worse and will cause you to regret your actions.

Another approach that women sometimes take when they feel an urge to text an ex is they’ll pretend to mistakenly send him a text meant for someone else. In a moment when you are desperate to have any sort of contact with your ex, this seems like such a great idea. In retrospect you’re going to realize how lame it really is. Your ex boyfriend is smarter than you give him credit for. He knows that you are sending him misguided messages so you can then contact him to explain.

One reader wrote to tell me that she sent her ex boyfriend a message saying that she couldn’t wait to see him later in the week. She naturally used another man’s name in the text. In her mind, this was the perfect trap to set, and the other man’s name was the irresistible bait. I probably don’t have to tell you that this didn’t work at all. Her ex boyfriend didn’t respond and when she finally did get in touch with him (via phone call) weeks later he was dating someone new. To her utter shock he explained that the misguided text message made him realize she had moved on so he followed suit.

Just as you need to be mindful of what you say when you see your ex boyfriend in person or what you say on the phone, you also need to be cautious with what you share via text message.

If you want to learn more about how you can use tiny messages to regain his interest, in the right way, click here to read my thoughts on texting your ex boyfriend.

I’m Scared My Ex Boyfriend Will Find Someone Else! How to Stop Panicking

I’m scared my ex boyfriend will find someone else!” I understand that fear. I felt it too when the man I love broke up with me. I woke many mornings after that in a sweat, filled with worry over whether or not he had already met a woman who would sweep him away from me forever. The fear consumed me at times and it halted my life in many ways. I almost became obsessed with the thought of him dating another woman and getting closer to her. That panic is real but it’s not necessary. If you’re currently making yourself crazy worrying about whether your ex boyfriend is going to move on and fall in love with someone new, stop for a moment, take a deep breath and relax.

It’s natural that you would have some concern over what your ex boyfriend’s dating status is if you’re still in love with him. The break up was likely a very painful experience for you and you’re unsure of what the future holds. If you had your way, the man you love would realize his mistake, come running to your door with a dozen roses and his heart on his sleeve. Unfortunately, that response is typically saved for movies and romance novels. You have to face the fact that your relationship with him has changed and he may actually find comfort in the arms of another woman.

The fact of the matter is that many couples break up, date other people and then realize what a perfect fit their ex is. This could very well happen with your ex boyfriend. In fact, his new relationship may actually play into your plan to get him back. The new girlfriend, who seems perfect at first, starts to show her flaws over time and you’re there to support your ex boyfriend by being an understanding and compassionate friend.

Most rebound relationships crash and burn very quickly. If your ex boyfriend does decide to start dating, don’t allow that to get the better of you. Men often use a new relationship as a coping tool. They believe that if they throw themselves into the dating pool again they’ll feel stronger emotionally and they’ll forget about their ex. It tends to backfire though and they end up feeling worse. Many men also come to a sudden realization that if they’re dating, their ex may be too. The thought of their ex girlfriend with another man is often too much to bear so they dump the new girl and rush back to the ex, begging her for another chance.

Why You Shouldn’t Date Someone New if Your Love Your Ex Boyfriend

It’s not advisable for you to “beat him to the punch” by dating someone new too. You don’t want to get into that type of emotional tug of war with a man you truly care about. Allow him the chance to sow his oats, while you hold your head up high with the knowledge that you’ll always be the best suited partner for him. Give him some time and he’ll come to see that too.

There is an undeniable beauty in the quiet strength of confidence. Show him that’s what you’re made of. If you can do that, you’ll always have the upper hand.

There is an ingenious way to get your man back if you’re intent on a future with him. I explain this innovative and very effective approach here.

My Ex Boyfriend Is Hot And Cold to Me! The Best Way For You to Deal with Him

When you’re a woman, like you and I are, men can sometimes become something of a riddle. You know exactly what I’m talking about, don’t you? Let’s take the case of an ex boyfriend. We’ve all had at least one ex who we couldn’t get over. We’d think about him non-stop, we’d do foolish things like call him up and demand to know why he won’t take us back and we’ve cried hours over him. It’s part of the romantic journey to experience those things but what happens when your ex boyfriend starts sending out a multitude of mixed signals in your direction? If your ex boyfriend is hot and cold, you’ve really got to temper that before you start putting your emotional health at risk. A man like this has all the control over the break up and the subsequent reunion. You don’t want to place your heart and your happiness in his hands. You have to learn how to deal with him in such a way that his wavering back and forth between wanting you and not wanting you doesn’t even phase you anymore.

Before we can delve into what you should be doing to temper his shifting attraction to you, let’s focus for a bit on why he’s acting this way. Not all men do this after a break up, but a surprising number do. We, as the women in love with said ex boyfriend, want to believe that his confusion is caused by his overwhelming love. In our naive minds we believe that he acts hot and cold because he is trying to rein in a heart that is out of control with love and devotion. It’s so romantic, isn’t it? It’s a fairytale though that belongs in a book. This isn’t your reality. He’s not pulling you close and then pushing you away because he cares so deeply for you. He’s playing a sadistic game with your heart and he may not even realize he’s doing it.

Just as we have trouble letting go after a break up, men are the same. The difference is that we don’t want to let go of the illusion that the love we shared with our ex was larger than life and could survive anything. For him, it’s much more about not wanting to be alone and if there’s no one else suitable on his emotional horizon, he’ll come circling back to you looking for you to fulfill his needs until he tires of that again.

That’s a harsh reality that unfortunately you need to accept before you can deal with him in a productive manner. If you want to continue to believe that he’s hot and cold because he’s lost in his conflicting feelings for you, you’ll continue to be hurt when he keeps disappearing after telling you he adores you and can’t live without you. If he truly cared for you to the extent that he professes, he wouldn’t act cold ever. He would be loving, attentive and working hard to ensure the future you two share is much better than the best.

Since he’s not doing that, you’re going to have to put up an emotional barrier that will ward against his hot moods. When he suddenly calls or texts you out of the blue saying he misses you, don’t respond right away. Wait an hour or two and then simply ask how he is in response. Don’t immediately play into his words by telling him you miss him every second of the day.

The same is true if he wants to hang out with you. Tell him that you’ve already made other plans but you can see him in three or four days when you have an opening. If he loved you as much as you want to believe he does, he’ll be happy to wait. If you don’t hear back for weeks, he found someone else to fill in his time.

Your emotional well being has to be your main concern. When a man either knowingly or unknowingly plays hot and cold with you it can open your heart up to even more heartbreak when he decides to go cold and disappear. Take control of your future and don’t make it too easy for him to manipulate you. If he really does care for you, he’ll stop playing games and he’ll get down to the business of rebuilding the relationship you two lost.

It’s hard to know why he won’t just disappear if he doesn’t want you anymore. Understanding the psychology behind what he’s doing will help you learn how to best approach him if you’re indeed serious about getting him back.

 

My Ex Boyfriend Just Texted Me! How Should I Respond?

My ex boyfriend just texted me! I don’t know how to respond.” Did you ever imagine you’d get so tied up in emotional knots over a simple text message from your ex boyfriend? Of course you didn’t. You probably also never imagined that the two of you would be broken up, right? You felt that the relationship was “the one.” You loved him desperately and now you’re just left with a feeling of desperation because he’s decided to take some time or he’s not in love with you anymore. None of that really matters at this point. You’re just completely focused on the fact that he’s texted you. How exactly should you respond? I’m here to help you navigate that road so you say exactly the right thing back to him.

Before you respond at all consider what you really want for your future. If you’re just desperately missing your ex boyfriend in this moment, you may make a crucial mistake by hooking up with him again when you know in the back of your mind that it would be a horrendous error that will leave you devastated again. If you’ve been thinking about him constantly and you truly miss his presence in your life and you feel that you two together could work through the issues that pulled you apart, you need to be cautious with how you approach him from this point forward. Don’t lose sight of the fact that your ex boyfriend’s motivations for sending you a text may be very different than what you hope they are.

Now, look at the text and think about why he sent it. If it’s a simple, “hey, how are you,” he’s probably looking to reconnect in some fashion. If it’s more direct such as, “do you want to get together today,” he’s going through a spell of really missing you and you need to be mindful of how you react to that. Some men just miss the intimacy that they shared with their ex girlfriend and that’s what drives them to send a message in the hope that she’ll be willing to share her body, but not her emotions.

Exactly How to Respond When Your Ex Boyfriend Sends a Text

My best advice for responding to an ex boyfriend who sends a text is to give it at least a couple of hours before you text anything back to him. That way you’ll have to time to gather your thoughts and he’ll have time to cool down if he’s feeling anything but genuine longing for you.

When you do respond keep it very simple and short. If he asked how you were, just text back, “I’m good and you?” This immediately throws the ball back in his court and it will be up to him to follow through with his true intentions.

One side note that I believe is incredibly important is that if your ex boyfriend and you had a very difficult break up and he’s been playing the hot and cold game with you, be wary. Some men take to pumping up their egos by mistreating their ex girlfriends. These type of men will pretend they want to get back together, only to push you away again. You don’t want to become a pawn in that.

If that’s the pattern that your ex boyfriend has been following, my best advice is not to respond to his text messages at all. If you do, you’re essentially handing your emotional power to him on a silver platter. He’s proven that he can manipulate your feelings so it’s important that you put a stop to that now.

Most of us don’t fully recognize the power of text messages and how they can alter a relationship. There are certain, specific text messages that you can send your ex boyfriend that will actually make him crave to be with you again. You can learn more about that here.

I’m So Angry with My Ex Boyfriend! How to Let That Go

If we only knew all the varying emotions we’d experience after a break up, we’d do our level best to avoid it. It’s always different for the person who was dumped. Sure, the one who did the dumping must have felt some sort of internal conflict as they weighed whether to end the relationship of not, but the crux of the pain falls on the shoulders of the person who was dumped. In that case, that’s you. I know how it feels and I also know that the emotions that accompany it can feel overwhelming at times. There are days when all you want to do is cry, other days you just want to try and convince him that he’s made a mistake, and at other times, there’s a rush of anger that overtakes you. Being angry with him is natural and healthy. How you express that anger to him is what you need to be mindful of.

Anger is a debilitating emotion. For me, I cycled through periods where I was so mad at my ex boyfriend for dumping me, that I’d write him very long, emotional emails and then send them thinking they would teach him a lesson or give him a window into how devastating his actions had been to me. When he wouldn’t respond, I’d find my rage just burning within me more. Typically during those times, I’d try to call him and he would, rightfully, not answer. Of course, I couldn’t think clearly so I’d leave voicemail messages filled with horrible sentiments all fuelled by my uncontrollable anger.

Each time this happened to me, the anger would dissipate and I’d go back to feeling discarded, alone and sad. One day, I happened to look at my sent email messages and noticed a note I had sent to my ex boyfriend during a bout of rage. It was truly despicable and I saw clearly, in that moment of calm reflection, why he had never responded.

Letting Go Of Anger After a Break Up

Letting go of anger can be a very difficult thing to do. If you’re a person who is naturally very passionate, you’ll likely feel anger and rage at a much deeper level. That’s exactly how I was. Learning to temper it, particularly in terms of my broken relationship, helped me move forward in a more positive and thoughtful way.

My first suggestion if you want to let go of the anger is to express it fully. The key is not to direct it right at your ex boyfriend but channel it through the written word. Open a document on your computer or go the old fashioned route and grab a pen and paper. Now start sharing everything you’re feeling. Make a list of why you’re mad. Write about how rejected you feel and express openly why you feel your ex boyfriend made the wrong choice. Don’t show this document to anyone. It’s your personal anger journal and you’re going to add to it as need be as you work your way through the next few days and weeks.

You must also learn to forgive your ex boyfriend. I realize that right now that may feel like a foreign concept given the emotional turmoil you are in. It’s an important part of the healing process though. I recognize that your ex boyfriend may have made countless promises of commitment and everlasting love and devotion. You have to understand that people change as do their feelings. When he said those things, he likely wasn’t been disingenuous at all, he was being honest. Back then he believed that your future would be spent together. However, something changed for him, and you must face that. Being mad at someone who simply fell out of love with you isn’t fair to either of you. You’ll find inner peace if you work towards forgiveness.

I’m a strong believer in time being one of the most powerful healing agents there are. If you constantly put yourself in a position in which you must interact with your ex boyfriend, you are only pushing your own triggers towards anger and resentment.

The two of you aren’t together anymore so make a clean break. If you’ve already sorted through all your personal belongings, there’s really no purpose for talking with him again. Remove him from your cell phone address book, stop driving by his apartment, and pack up anything that even remotely reminds you of him including gifts and photographs.

You will find that you can heal faster and more effectively if you focus your attention on yourself and the people who bring positive energy to your life. By taking a proactive approach to dealing with your break up anger, you’ll be helping yourself more than anyone else. Look at the break up as one of life’s experiences and take whatever you can from it that will make you a stronger, more desirable and more balanced woman.

Once I worked past the anger I was feeling I realized that I still loved my ex boyfriend deeply. I’ve written more about that here and hope that it will give you some comfort in this emotionally difficult time.

 

Signs He Is Breaking Up With You! How to Tell If Your Man is About to Leave

Feeling as though you’re walking on eggshells in your relationship is obviously not a good thing. No woman, who is deeply in love with a man, wants to have any doubt about how he feels or where the relationship stands. You want to wake up each day basking in the knowledge that your man utterly adores you and would move heaven and earth to make you happy. Unfortunately, that fairytale isn’t always the reality that we are forced to live. We all have an inner instinct when it comes to the man we’re involved with and we can pick up fairly quickly when something has shifted. If you’re questioning whether or not he’s still as into you as he once was, you may not want to face the fact that he is indeed slipping away. Don’t let your wishful thinking cloud the truth of what is really going on. There are actually several signs that indicate when a man is on the verge of pulling the plug on a relationship.

Pay attention to these signs that your man may be ready to walk away from the connection you two share:

He doesn’t return your calls as swiftly as he once did. This is an obvious sign of a man losing interest but we often come up with very logical excuses for it. Let’s say your man has told you that he’s so busy with work that he doesn’t have the time to get back to you the way he once did. The fact of the matter is that any man who is in love with a woman will find the time to follow up with her. He’ll actually make time to reach out to her just to see how her day is going. If your man never calls or he takes hours or even days to return your calls, his interest is rapidly slipping away.

His attitude towards you shifts and he may even be rude. When a man begins to disengage emotionally from a relationship he sometimes subconsciously tries to push the woman he’s involved with away. This is why it’s not uncommon for a man in this position to be overtly rude or obnoxious to the woman he was once in love with. He may say things that are hurtful, whereas in the past he’s always been very kind and complimentary. He may also make offhanded comments about those closest to the woman in the hopes of getting her to pull back.

He stops sharing his feelings in terms of the relationship. If your man has always told you that he loves you, or that he can’t live without you and that suddenly stops, that’s a big red flag that he likely doesn’t feel those things any longer. The shift may be very abrupt or it may be more subtle, and happen over a period of time. Some women just realize one day that they haven’t heard their boyfriend express his love and appreciation in weeks. Once this happens you can be fairly certain that a break up is on the very near horizon.

He’ll mention that he’s met someone new. This can be a very emotionally jarring experience for any woman. When the man you love tells you that he’s met a new woman and they’ve become good friends, that’s a sign that his heart is becoming more emotionally invested in someone else. Men will often do this in the hope of pushing their girlfriend away. Many men just don’t want to shoulder the responsibility of the break up so they do things that they know will cause their girlfriend to break up with them. This is an example of one of those things. If your boyfriend tells you that he’s working with a woman he enjoys being friends with or he’s met someone he gets along well with, he’s preparing you for the inevitable conversation when he says he wants to pursue something with her.

Realizing that the man you love is on the edge of a breaking up with you is never an easy thing to absorb. You have to face the fact that not only has his feelings for you changed, but he’s already moved on emotionally. As painful as this is, it’s important to recognize it and then take whatever steps are necessary so you retain both your emotional balance and dignity.

It can feel heartbreaking to realize that your relationship may be over, but it’s much more important to be informed so that you aren’t bowled over by the news. You have the ability to handle yourself with grace and understanding when your boyfriend does indeed tell you that he wants things to be over.

There is a surprising way to get your boyfriend to reinvest himself into the relationship. Learn how to get him to want you all over again here.

Have You Been Texting an Ex Boyfriend? Why This is a Huge Mistake!

You know the rules, ladies. It’s all about no contact if you want to get your ex boyfriend back. That includes texting him. You haven’t been following that rule though, have you? You’ve fallen into the trap of texting him just to say “hey” or to see how he is. In your mind you’ve decided that since you didn’t hear his voice or see his handsome face, that it’s not really contact, right? It is! You’ve broken one of the most important rules any woman needs to follow after a break up. Allow me to explain why breaking this rule may be something you’ll soon come to regret.

Texting an ex boyfriend is akin to talking to him on the phone or rushing over to see him. In essence, you’re telling him that you can’t live without him, even if the text you send is generic and is supposed to look like it’s coming from a place of friendship. He can read between the lines and any correspondence at all from you suggests to him that you’re struggling with the break up and are sitting patiently waiting for the moment when he says he wants you back.

If you can refrain from texting him you’re showing him that you can live on a daily basis without him. This may seem insignificant, especially if he was the one who dumped you, but there’s a deep, hidden meaning that you shouldn’t be overlooking. When a woman separates herself completely from a man after a break up, she’s showing him that she’s accepted that their relationship has run its course. He’ll start to wonder why she’s given up on him and he’ll also begin to question whether she’s already moved on to someone else.

You can see that even though it seems innocent enough when you randomly text him, there’s a lot more going on beneath the surface than that. As you work your way through the days and weeks following the break up, keep all contact to a bare minimum. If you need to tell him to come pick up his things, leave a short and direct voicemail message asking him to do that. If there is a financial situation that demands his attention, again a short and very direct message is the way to handle it.

You should never try and hold onto a man after a break up by texting him, or calling him. You need to let him go for now. It’s also essential that you take that time right after the split to refocus on your own priorities so you can find the best road to travel in the future.

Give it a few weeks for your emotions to settle and then make a decision about whether pursuing him again is truly what you want. Time has a way of changing our perspective and it also gifts us with an inner strength we didn’t know we had. Remove his number from your phone, spoil yourself for a few weeks and keep an eye on the future.

Michael Fiore has developed this unbelievable program that will literally make your ex boyfriend come crawling back to you by using text messages the RIGHT way!

If you click here you can watch a free video explaining what he’s discovered. I just want to caution you not to take this approach if you’re unsure about whether you want him back or not. It works that well!

 

 

I Wish My Ex Boyfriend Would Miss Me – Make That Wish a Reality

I wish my ex boyfriend would miss me.” It’s that one phrase that you’ve been saying to yourself over and over again since the break up. You may have even said it out loud to a close friend or two. You miss the man like crazy so why isn’t he missing you? Logically your head is telling you it’s because he’s over you, but your heart keeps you invested in a possible future with him. The fact of the matter is that men and women just don’t process a break up the same way. While you may spend your days missing your ex boyfriend like mad, he may only think of you occasionally. Does this mean that your planned future together is never going to happen? Or is there still a way to get the guy to finally see that you are the one and only perfect partner for him? Love is complicated. You know that because you’ve lived that. Before you give up on your desire to get your ex to miss you, it’s worth noting that many broken relationships, regardless of how painful the split was, can be brought back to life.

Take the Obvious Step and Stop Talking to Him

Women are notorious for talking too much. Most of us can admit to at least one occurrence, if not a hundred, in which we talked and talked when we should have been quiet. This is especially true after a break up. If you spend time each day plotting a way to get your ex boyfriend to talk with you, you’re never going to get the man to miss you. The two things can’t work together. You can’t expect anyone to miss you, or long to be with you, if you’re always chasing after them. It just can’t happen.

You can make him miss you if you disappear. This isn’t hard to do at all. You just make a conscious decision to not talk with him. You vow to not text him and email is out of the question. You avoid his usual haunts and you steer clear of anyone you know is close to him. In other words, you drop out of his sight, and his world, without a word and without a trace.

Don’t think it’s going to impact him more if you announce that you’re going to break off contact. If you do this, you’ll appear juvenile to him. He’ll label you as a game player and he’ll never miss you. In fact, he’ll be thankful that you’re gone. Keep your plan to yourself. Don’t share it with anyone. Even close friends have a habit of sharing secret information if they’re presented with an opportunity to confess all to a mutual acquaintance. You don’t want your ex boyfriend to hear from his hair stylist or a guy at his gym that there’s talk through the grapevine that you’re deliberately ignoring him in an effort to get him back.

Be Patient and Re-Focus on You and Not Your Ex Boyfriend

You literally have no control over what your ex boyfriend feels. You can`t magically wave a wand to make the man fall deeply in love with you again. You can, however, use certain very specific psychological triggers to get him back. One of those is making him miss you.

In addition to simply avoiding him, you have to continue to move your life in a forward direction. The reasoning behind this is two –fold. Not only do you want your ex boyfriend to sense that you’re moving on and away from him but you’re also going to take the pressure off yourself in terms of waiting endlessly for your ex to realize what he’s lost.

Once a man senses that his ex has moved on, he will automatically question whether or not he really wants it to be over. The only way to get him to the point of missing you and also the point where he wonders whether he wants you with anyone else is to live your life to the fullest, as separate and apart from him as possible.

Almost all exes keep an eye on their former partners, either via mutual friends or social media. If you post on your Facebook page that you’re going to head out to a certain club, your ex is going to wonder if you’re going to meet another guy. The same is true if you Tweet about the great lunch date you had. Keep the details to a minimum but share enough that your ex’s mind will start to wander into places that include you moving on and leaving him behind.

Making your ex boyfriend miss you isn’t all that hard. It’s easy if you’re patient, upbeat and determined. Showing him that you can live without him will push a psychological trigger within your ex boyfriend that will make him question not only the break up but a future without you too. Show him that there’s a void in his life without you and the man won’t be able to stop himself from reaching out to you in an effort to get back together again.

 

 

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