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Why Do Men Get Over a Break Up So Fast? Advice for Women

I’m often questioned by women on my blog on one specific topic and that’s why men are capable of getting over a break up so quickly. It does seem to be the norm, doesn’t it? We mourn the loss of the relationship for weeks, if not months, while our exes are out partying the nights, days and weekends away oblivious to the emotional pain we’re in. It’s an interesting study on the topic of human emotions. As women we have a more difficult time emotionally disconnecting from a relationship, even if the break up was by our hand. Men, on the other hand, seem able to pick their hearts up, dust them off and dive right back into life full force and with a smile on their faces. Why is that? Is there a definitive reason for why men seem much more emotionally able to move on towards a new life and new relationship after a split? The real reason behind that smile on your ex boyfriend’s face may surprise you.

Our perception is that our ex has gotten over the break up because we don’t see him in those quiet, sullen moments when the gravity of the situation hits him. In confidence, many men will actually confess to being heartbroken by the reality that the relationship they viewed as life sustaining has shattered. Men are raised, for the most part, to be strong and to hide their emotions away from the world. So when you speak to your ex or you run into him at a mutual favorite place you may be mistaking that smile on his face for acceptance and perhaps even joy at his newfound freedom. Internally he may be fighting the urge to tell you that he misses you more than he thought possible and he wishes that things could just go back to how they used to be. In other words, that facade that he’s presenting to you may not be what really lurks beneath the surface.

Obviously, there does exist the man who can dust his heart off and jump back into his life at warp speed. This is the man who dives into a new relationship just as he’s checking out of the old one. To the woman left behind, she suddenly devalues her place in his life and the relationship they shared. She’ll wonder whether she meant anything more to him than a short stop on his romantic adventure. Viewing yourself through the eyes of an ex boyfriend who is not compassionate is a mistake. You should look at the relationship the way you choose to and hold onto the parts of it that helped you to become the woman you are now.

I advise women not to dwell too heavily on the behavior of their ex after the break up. If he does certain things, you may mistakenly believe those are silent signals that he’s still hung up on you. By the same token if he doesn’t do certain things you may jump to the very same conclusion.

All you really need to focus on is that it was an experience in your life and now you’re going to look towards new experiences, be it with him in the future or with someone new. He’s going to process the break up in a way that is best for him, just as you’re going to do the same for yourself.

Remember that he’s not your boyfriend anymore. What he does isn’t your concern. You need to let him go, for now and point the spotlight directly on yourself and the amazing woman you are. You’ve grown since the break up and you need to use the emotional journey you’ve taken as fuel for the next great adventure awaiting you.

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Can I Make My Ex Boyfriend Love Me Again? My Direct Answer

One of the questions that I’m often asked by women through emails or the comments on my blogs is, “Can I make my ex boyfriend love me again?” Any woman asking this is obviously overwrought with emotion. She’s feeling lost, confused and she’s wondering whether the only man she’s ever really loved, or will love, has just walked out of her life.

Here’s my best answer to the question: Can I Make My Ex Boyfriend Love Me Again?

You two just broke up and you are most likely left with a broken heart. Well the first thing you might be thinking is it is over forever, well stop right there. Even though things are over it does not mean they are for good. Chances are you both loved each other unconditionally and maybe the break up was not the right thing. Maybe you two were not supposed to end things. If you really love him then you need to do something about it. If you do not let him know how you truly feel he may never come back.

Leaving the one person you love more than anything else in the world can be extremely difficult. It may be enough to have you staying inside, lying on the couch watching reruns. But what you really should be doing is going out there and making things right. Do not just lounge around asking yourself, “can I make my ex boyfriend love me again.” Instead you have to start doing something. Wallowing away in self pity does not a reunion make, girl! This situation is now in your hands and the actions you take are going to dictate whether or not you get back the man you want.

The first thing you will want to consider is you. Most of the time relationships end not just because of one person but because of both. It does not take just one of you for things to go downhill. Maybe there was something he did not like that you were doing. Or maybe he was being a bit too controlling. Well no matter what it was that caused the break up, just know that you can easily make things right again. All it will take is some time and effort and invaluable insight into what works and what doesn’t work in terms of getting him back. Ashley Kay was my go to girl for this – you can learn more about her and her genius ways to get a man back here.  

Getting Your Boyfriend Back Means Looking at Your Own Behavior

You’re also going to want to think about your behavior.  If you were the perfect girlfriend for him, I can guarantee that the man wouldn’t have walked out of your life. Something wasn’t connecting between the two of you anymore. Really consider your place in this. Think about what you did that irritated or annoyed him. Something as seemingly innocent as being too controlling or possessive can be enough to make a man bolt for the door at warp speed.

It can be hard to understand exactly what you should and shouldn’t be doing to get him back. Take some time to absorb the end of the relationship, as you know it and then get focused on what you can do to ensure you get him to want you back again.

Why Can’t I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back? The Crucial Mistakes You’re Making

Why can’t I get my ex boyfriend back? That’s the million dollar question, isn’t it? You’ve tried to get the man to reconsider his decision to end the relationship but it’s done little good. You’re still alone, he’s moving on and you’re left to wonder whether it’s time to finally give up on him. The problem is that life doesn’t present us with a lot of opportunities to fall deeply in love. You don’t want to regret losing him so unless you’re certain that you can move forward in your life and leave the relationship behind, you owe it to yourself to continue to try and get him back. However, before you call him up yet again and plead with him for another chance, there are a few things you need to be aware of. Unless you fully understand where he is emotionally and what to avoid doing, you’re never going to succeed in winning back his heart.

Don’t Crowd Him After the Break Up

The most common mistake that women make when they are aching to be back with their ex boyfriend is they crowd him. They call him repeatedly or they send him endless text messages all with the intention of getting him to fall back in love. As women, we tend to feel panicked if our love life is in disarray. We want it fixed this moment and to us, the best way to do that is to try and get our ex boyfriend to talk to us again. He doesn’t want or need that. He wants some emotional space to come to terms with the break up and to think about what he really wants for the future. If you’re constantly right there with your heart on your sleeve trying to convince him to take you back, he’ll push you farther away. Do yourself and your ex boyfriend a favor by leaving him alone for at least three to four weeks. Take this time to do things just for yourself. Give him the time he needs and show him that you can live without him. This is crucial and unless you’re willing to lose him for good, you need to walk away for now.

Don’t Continually Try to Make Him Jealous

It’s truly mind boggling how many women think they can play the jealousy card with their ex boyfriend. You can’t. It’s never going to work the way you assume it will. Even though you would be seething with jealousy if you saw him with someone new, that doesn’t mean he will be if the roles are reversed. There’s a very good chance that your ex boyfriend will shut you completely out of his heart if he sees you with another man or even hears about it from someone else. Men don’t want to compete with other men for a girlfriend they’ve already dumped. This isn’t the same scenario as when you two first met. Back then he probably would have been more than willing to fight for you. Now, he’ll view your new relationship as a sign that you’ve moved on and he’ll do the same thing. Don’t date anyone else if you are serious about getting back with your ex. It will only complicate everything if you do.

Don’t Act as Though You Can’t Live Without Him

Whether or not you and your ex boyfriend get back together, you’re going to be just fine. Until you learn how to believe that, you’re going to fawn all over him when you see him, and say things that will show him that you think he’s the be all and end all of your world. He doesn’t want to feel as though your happiness hinges on whether he takes you back. That’s simply too much pressure for any person to have to shoulder post break up. You are a dynamic, interesting woman who can move forward, with or without her ex boyfriend. Once you learn how to absorb that and see it as the truth, your ex boyfriend will as well. Don’t make the mistake of telling him that you miss him so much it hurts or that you can’t sleep without him beside you. Instead, appear happy and satisfied with the life you have now. A positive attitude is going to help you immensely as you learn to deal with the break up and with living as a single woman. Every man wants a woman who is content with the life she has. A man doesn’t want to feel as though he’s the only thing filling a void. He wants to fit into the life you’ve already made for yourself so show your ex that you’re happily rebuilding your life without him. That will not only impress him, it will make him long to be someone who can share in that again.

My Ex Boyfriend’s Friend Contacted Me! Why You Shouldn’t Read Too Much Into This

Since the break up you’ve been wishing and hoping that you’d get a sign from the universe suggesting that your ex boyfriend wants you back, right? It’s understandable. You still love him and you feel that the break up was a mistake. Unfortunately, your ex seems to have moved on without much thought about what you’d like. But now you’ve heard from his friend. It can’t just be an innocent gesture, could it? The friend must have been sent to check on you by your ex. At least that’s what your broken heart is trying to tell you. Sadly, I’m here to tell you something very different. The fact that a friend of your ex has made contact means very little in the big picture. In fact, don’t be surprised to learn that your ex had absolutely nothing to do with it.

When a break up occurs it affects everyone in the emotional vicinity. Not only are you and your boyfriend both forced to deal with the emotions that accompany the end of a relationship but your friends and family members have to learn how to handle it as well. When someone we care for goes through a break up we not only have to watch them in pain but we have to face the reality that their partner will no longer be a regular part of our lives. That may be what is happening with your ex boyfriend’s friend. He or she has finally come to the realization that you’re no longer part of the inner circle and they miss you. Their reaching out to you may very well be their way of forging a new friendship that doesn’t include your ex.

Another reason a friend of an ex often pops up unexpectedly is they’re looking to recoup something that belonged to the ex. In other words, your ex boyfriend may have sent his friend on a mission to recover something of his that you have possession of. You can typically weed out this motivation pretty quickly if the friend jumps from asking how you are to inquiring about how they can get back the item in question for their friend, your ex. Be mindful not to be offended by this. If the roles were reversed and your ex had something meaningful that belonged to you, you may ask someone to seek that out as well. It’s important not to take any of your frustrations over the break up out on the friend who may be nothing more than an innocent bystander who is trying to help someone they care for.

Obviously, if you’re counting on a renewed relationship with your ex at some point, you’re hoping that the reason their friend contacted you was to do some covert, undercover work to see where you’re at emotionally and whether you’ve started dating again. Don’t make the mistake of jumping to the conclusion that this is what they’re doing if they ask if you have a new guy in your life. Again, this can be normal human curiosity. You’re much better off tempering what you share with the friend for now until you have a clearer sense of what they truly want from you.

If you do determine that they’re fishing for information on behalf of your ex boyfriend, be careful with how much you share. If your ex went to the trouble of sending someone to gather information for him, he’s very interested in getting back together with you. Make him squirm a bit by keeping your emotions close and sharing only small parts of what’s going on. That way the friend will report back to your ex that he or she isn’t really sure what you’re up to and that curiosity will definitely spur on your boyfriend’s interest.

I want to stress how important it is to take a step back emotionally from all of this before you put too much emotional energy into the idea of getting back with your ex. When we want something we sometimes see things that aren’t really there. Be honest with yourself about why your ex boyfriend’s friend has come into your life. Take some time to discover their motivations and if they truly just want to be your friend, with no hidden agenda, consider embracing that. We can never have too many friends and you never know if this new friendship may help ease the pain of the break up so you can finally move forward with your life a happier, more emotionally balanced woman.

Remember that your ex boyfriend’s friend may not have any insight into the break up at all. In fact, you want to be careful with how much you bring up with them for fear of them running back and confiding unflattering things in your ex about you.

There are ways to ignite some interest from your ex boyfriend again but don’t use their friend to do it. That’s a mistake you clearly don’t want to make.

How to Get a Cancer Man Back? Tips You Desperately Need

You and the Cancer man who owns your heart had a falling out. You broke up and now, since the dust has settled, you’re realizing how empty your life really is. You miss him, you long to be with him again, but you don’t know what you can possibly do to make him understand that the two of you belong together. It’s hard to get up each day and face the knowledge that the man you love isn’t in your life anymore. Instead of wallowing in the depths of despair because it’s over, why not take some steps towards getting him back? If you love this man and if you really believe your life’s path belongs with his, there’s no time to waste. Getting a Cancer man back does come with its own set of unique challenges, but if you’re prepared emotionally and if you’re equipped with the knowledge of what makes him forgive and forget, you’ll be well on your way to that second chance you wish for.

Recognize That He Needs Time to Process What He’s Feeling

One thing you already know about Cancer men is that they often shut themselves out from the world when they are upset. These men need private time to process what they are feeling. At times, their need to do this may seem harsh or cold, but it’s a defense mechanism in place to protect their hearts. That means, that regardless of how many ill conceived attempts you make to get him to talk about the break up, he won’t until he feels ready.

The first piece of advice you should be following if you hope to get your Cancer man to want to be with you again is to leave him alone. This may feel impossible given the fact that you want to reach out to him in an effort to convince him that you two really do belong together.

By stepping back, and giving him some space and time to process the break up, you’ll be demonstrating to the man you love that you respect his needs. You have to put his need for time ahead of your need for contact at this point.

Apologize for Your Part in the Break Up

Obviously someone has to eventually make the first move if you want your Cancer man to see a future with you. That someone is likely going to have to be you. Men born under this astrological sign are skilled at holding a grudge. If you did anything before, or during the break up, that stung him emotionally, you can expect him to carry that around with him until you apologize.

Allow some time to pass after the break up. Give him the recommended time he needs to himself and then craft a very simple and direct apology. Gifts shouldn’t accompany your apology because your lost love may actually view this as a bribe. Instead, call him up and tell him that you just want to apologize for what you said or did. Make it as genuine as possible. Try not to be overly emotional though. You want to show your ex that you’re clear minded and that you’re being sincere.

Don’t expect him to forgive you right away. These men will hold onto their emotional pain until they feel it’s time to let it go. The only thing you can do to help is to offer that sincere apology and then allow your actions to show that you have indeed changed.

Be Open to Any Relationship He Offers

Like most of us, Cancer men have a deep fear of rejection. Once he lets his emotional walls down again, he’ll come looking for a relationship with you. With any luck, he’ll realize that he’s still very much in love with you. However, if he doesn’t friendship may have to be the stepping stone you work from.

Once some time has passed since the painful break up, expect your man to want to be friends with you. Embrace this with open arms even if it’s not your end goal. Men born during this time of year are slow to put their hearts on the line again. He’s not going to want to jump headfirst back into anything with you if he’s fearful that there will be more emotional pain.

That’s why becoming friends is such a good idea at this point. You can demonstrate, as a great friend, why your man still needs you. Keep all old relationship talk out of the new friendship and don’t push for more than he’s ready to give to you. You’re going to use this opportunity to show your Cancer man why you’re not only a fantastic friend, but why you’re also still the ideal partner for him.

There is a surprising and effective way to use text messages to get your Cancer man to want you back again. By contacting him with simple, strategic texts you can regain his attention faster than you thought possible.

I Want to Make My Ex Boyfriend Regret Dumping Me! Ways to Make Him See His Error

I want to make my ex boyfriend regret dumping me!” Virtually every woman in your situation has said the very same thing. It hurts to be dumped. It stings your ego and wreaks havoc with your self confidence. You feel neglected, disposable and you can’t help but question whether the relationship was ever what he said it was. Did he really love you or was he playing with your emotions? When he promised you that you two would be together forever was that a cruel joke? These are all questions a woman is bound to ask when she’s dumped. I want you to consider something for a moment. Instead of focusing on the fact that he dumped you, I want you to think about how great it will feel when he wakes up one morning and regrets the entire break up. Won’t that feel amazing? You actually can make that happen sooner rather than later and it’s much easier than you probably realize.

Male psychology is very different than female psychology. The way we react to things after a break up is very different than the way men react to them. For instance, all you want is to speak to him and reason with him so he can come to see that he’s make a life changing mistake and he’ll want you back, right? For us it’s all about communicating our innermost feelings. We believe that if we do that, he’ll come to see that he can’t live without us and the man we loved will race back to the relationship at breakneck speed. It’s all very emotional and beautiful, but not how men see it at all.

In order to appeal directly to a man’s heart you have to show him what he’s missing. Telling him won’t cut it. You can talk to your ex boyfriend until you’re blue in the face about everything that he’s lost in you. He’s just going to let it go in one ear and out the other because to him it’s just words. He’s not going to feel anything very deeply until he sees it or experiences it for himself. That’s why the crux of your plan to make him regret dumping you is all about showing him exactly what he’s missing.

Look at yourself in the mirror right now. Are you proud of the woman looking back at you or do you see a desperate girl with no self control who would do anything to win back the heart of the man she loves? If you don’t see a strong woman who is content with her life exactly as it is, you need to make some major changes. However you see yourself is the very same way your ex boyfriend is going to see you. Right now, he probably only sees a pathetic, desperate emotional mess when he talks with you or sees you. That has to change today.

Pull yourself together and cut the man right out of your life. Your ex boyfriend is going to be pushed down to the bottom spot on the priority scale of your life. He no longer matters. Right now you have to decide that you are the focal point for you. That means you are going to devote as much time as you can to feeling stronger, better and happier.

Once you stop obsessing over your ex boyfriend and you make a conscious effort to focus on you, he’ll notice. He won’t be getting any more emotional phone calls from you and he’ll hear from mutual friends that you seem happier than you ever had.

To add more power to your plan, get out more and enjoy your life. Hang out in places you know single men do. Let his friends see you socializing, laughing and flirting. Once this news gets back to your ex, and it will, he’ll start to see what he’s lost.

Once your ex boyfriend starts regretting the break up it won’t be long until he’s calling you asking you to take him back. You have the power after your split – never forget that.

Should You Make Your Ex Boyfriend Feel Rejected? Why This Helps to Get Him Back

I often get questions from my readers about the feeling of rejection they are experiencing. I’m not going to sugar coat this one, ladies – it hurts, deeply and endlessly when you’re dumped. You feel rejected – more rejected than you’ve ever felt. So the question then becomes, “should you reject your ex boyfriend?” Will it help to make him feel the same pain you are? Read on to discover why rejection may be the secret weapon you’ve been searching for to get him back for good!

Using Rejection to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back is a Risk Worth Taking

Whether the relationship was good or bad, break ups can affect you no matter what. If you have just recently got dumped for reasons you still cannot understand then keep reading. Right now chances are you are feeling heartbroken, lonely, and as if things will never get better. Well what you need to start doing is changing that. What you two had was good while it lasted, but something changed. Your relationship came to an end for a reason. He decided one day that he’d had enough. You’re now wondering what you did wrong and what you might have been able to change along the way, right? Instead of focusing on the past, it’s time to focus on the here and now and the future. There’s a way to turn that feeling of rejection you’re experiencing right back around so he feels the same things you are.

Making your ex boyfriend feel rejection may seem like a childish thing to do, but this is all about getting back the man you love, right? The two of you just broke up and it has left you feeling terrible. Well if you have seen him lately chances are he looked fine, right? If that is the case and you feel as though what you two had meant nothing to him then now is the time to give him a taste of his own medicine. What you can do is just what he is doing. Act as though everything is fine. Get out there and enjoy life. Chances are if he sees you happy without him it will leave him second guessing his choice. The last thing a man wants to see is his ex happy without him, especially just after the break up. It’s going to hit him right smack in his male ego and that will cause a very strong reaction in him.

Show Him That You Can Live Without Him

Men don’t want to lose – whether it’s a poker game or a woman. Even though he sheepishly rejected you, the fact that you’re now rejecting him is going to send him into an emotional tailspin he won’t soon recover from. It’s going to make him behave in a way that he won’t expect but you’ll be anticipating.

He’s going to start calling more just to get a sense of what’s up with you. If he calls you a lot what you need to do is keep the phone calls short. Do not stay on the phone with him for too long. You do not want him to think you will give up all your time for him. That is what he wants. He wants to know that you are still going to be there for him even though the two of you are not together anymore. Instead what you have to do is let him know that you are not going to hang around for him still. Things are different and you need to show him. If you do that you would be amazed at just how different your next phone call will be.

If he suggests seeing you, make an excuse. The lamer the better at this point. Say something about having to be at a shoe sale or that you need to clean out the refrigerator. By suggesting that you have something mundane to do instead of seeing him, you’re silently telling him that he matters less than those things now. This is a wonderfully effective tool for spurring a man’s interest on. No man, on the face of the planet, wants to feel as though cleaning an appliance is more important than being with him.

If you want your ex back then you have to start following simple tips like the ones listed above. Rejection may be a difficult and challenging emotion but right now it’s your friend so utilize it, make the most of it and show your boyfriend that two can play the rejection game.

Getting your ex boyfriend back is an art form and until you know the exact steps you need to be taking, you’re skating on very thin emotional ice with him.

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Texting an Ex Boyfriend? Tips to Handle This Correctly

Have you been texting an ex boyfriend? If you have, you’re not alone. Most of us have done it. It’s hard not to, isn’t it? It’s such an accessible form of communication. It takes mere seconds to find his number on your phone, type out a small message and press send. The problem is that texting an ex is really no different than calling him. If you’re doing it too often or being too sentimental or pushy in your text messages, you risk pushing your ex boyfriend away forever. I know it seems innocent to just send a random text here and there asking how he is, but you may be doing much more harm than good. There are ways to handle this in a way that actually creates a connection and doesn’t cause more conflict than is already there.

You don’t want to try and work out the details of your failed relationship through text message. It’s not the right communication vehicle for that. Most of us have been guilty of trying to do that. We’ll send a text that says, “what happened between us,” or “how did we end up like this.” Doing this actually will make your ex boyfriend feel cornered. He’ll panic because he’ll sense that you want an answer right then and there, through text. That’s typically the reason a man will respond to a text like that with something that suggests that he’s busy or he has to go. You never want to send your ex boyfriend a message that makes him feel as though you’ve put him on the spot. That’s not fair to him and inevitably it won’t produce the answers that you feel you need.

The Right Way to Text an Ex Boyfriend

It’s certainly okay to text him now and again but keep those messages light and non-dramatic. For instance, if his favorite sports team won an important game, send an innocent message about that. You might say you were watching and knew he’d be thrilled or perhaps you could say that you imagined he was grinning from ear-to-ear because of the win. It’s also okay to text him if a special occasion has arrived. Perhaps it’s his birthday or it’s the holidays. In that case a simple, “hope it’s a great day,” will suffice.

Your goal with all of this is to keep the lines of communication open in a friendly, non-threatening way. You don’t want him to feel that you’re chasing after him so keep the texts that you do send, few and far between. There’s absolutely no reason for you to text the man each and every day. If you do that, you’re essentially telling him that you’re desperate for his attention and can’t live without him. Whether that’s true or not, you don’t want him to sense it as it won’t be helpful if you hope to reconnect with him romantically one day.

Handling the messages he sends you can be a bit more challenging. Some men feed their egos by texting their ex girlfriend that they miss them just to see what type of response that will garner. You don’t want to feel as though your ex boyfriend is toying with your emotions so don’t respond in any serious way to a text like that. Simply send a message back asking how he’s been and what’s been going on in his life. If you do that, you’re subtly telling him that you don’t want to get into a position where you feel emotionally vulnerable. If he really does miss you, he’ll ask to see you.

There is a way to use text messages to make your ex boyfriend crave to be with you again. Learn what you can text him that will make him feel an overwhelming desire to try and make the relationship work.

Should I Keep Having Sex with My Ex Boyfriend? The Answer You Must Read Now!

Sometimes you wonder why you do the things you do, right? We’ve all been there, especially when it comes to a man. You and your boyfriend aren’t officially together anymore but you’re sleeping with him. Internally you likely know that it’s not the best idea for you but your heart wants another chance with him and perhaps you view this as the way to get it. It’s not. If you are indeed being intimate with an ex, you have to understand what impact this really has on getting him back. You may think it’s a wonderful way to draw him back into your life, but the way to an ex boyfriend’s heart is not found in bed.

It’s incredibly important that you start viewing this scenario from your ex boyfriend’s view as opposed to your love sick view. Once you see what he sees, you’re going to think twice about hopping back into an intimate encounter with him until you two have established a more meaningful romantic connection.

Your Ex Boyfriend Will Be Intimate with You Because He Loves Intimacy

Here’s the facts about what goes on in a man’s mind post break up. You and your guy were together for some time, you shared a lot including some pretty special intimate moments. He remembers those and when he’s feeling he needs some one-on-one physical contact he’s going to be drawn to a place of familiarity. That place is you.

He may tell you that he’s been thinking about you or that he misses all the incredible moments you two had together. If you sleep with him when he’s saying such romantic things, you’re instantly going to assume that he is falling back in love with you. To him it’s a very different experience. Men are much more capable of separating intimacy and love. If he misses the physical part of your relationship and you give that back to him, that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s feeling anything emotional.

You can tell what’s going on in his heart if his contact with you reaches beyond the boundaries of his libido. If he wants to hang out in places other this your place or his place, that’s a good sign. Be honest with yourself about what’s going on. Don’t sugar coat it at all. If your ex boyfriend calls you and then you two end up being intimate, followed by days and days where you hear nothing from him, the desire he is feeling for you is all wrapped up in physical intimacy.

The Intimacy Will Stop When He Finds a New Woman to Romance

If you put yourself in a position in which you become your ex boyfriend’s lover, he’ll drop you like a hotcake if he becomes emotionally attracted to another woman.

He currently sees you as his intimate partner, not his emotional partner. If he hasn’t suggested that you two get back together, and he only calls or texts when he’s feeling the need to be physical, you’ve painted yourself in a corner that is going to painful to get out of.

Many women are shocked when they are dumped a second time by their ex because he’s fallen in love with someone else. Even though these women have been spending loads of intimate time with their ex boyfriends, the time was just that to the man in question, intimate time and nothing else.

He won’t continue to sleep with you because he’ll genuinely feel that he’s cheating on his new girl if he does. He’ll tell you that you two can’t “see each other” anymore because he wants to try and make his new relationship work. All the while you’ve been under the mistaken umbrella of belief that he felt closer to you than ever and it was just a matter of time before you two were in a full-fledged relationship again.

How to Shift the Dynamic Between You and Your Ex Boyfriend

You need to subtly change the dynamic between you and your ex if you truly hope to get back together with him. Sleeping with him is likely not going to be the means to that end.

It’s best to talk with him about what you’re feeling outside of the bedroom and not when you’re about to be intimate or have just been intimate. Instead, invite him out for a coffee. Simply state that there’s something important you’d like to discuss, but keep your tone light and friendly.

Explain to him that you still care for him and even though you two have been enjoying each other recently, it’s not the direction that you want to continue to head in. Make it clear that you desire more but you’re not asking for it. It’s wise to express to your ex that to you intimacy is just one part of the renewed connection you seek and you’d be open to the idea of you two dating again.

If he balks at this, you know that continuing to sleep with him is not going to get you the end result you seek. He’s only interested in one thing at the moment, so you need to remove yourself from his life.

This may feel incredibly scary given the fact that you’re essentially walking away from the man you love but view it as a step in the right direction. Your wants and needs have to trump his so it’s important that you state what you want and respect yourself enough to show that you won’t settle for anything less.

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I Made a Mistake and I Want Him Back! Is it Possible for You to Right This Wrong?

I made a mistake and I want him back!” Hindsight can be incredibly painful when you’re dealing with a relationship you ended. When we’re involved with a man and we feel in our heart that the best thing is to end it so we can both move forward towards better suited connections, it takes internal courage to tell him as much. You’ve gotten past that part and perhaps at first you felt you’d made the right decision. Maybe you two argued a lot and the silence after the break up was a welcomed relief. Or perhaps you wanted a more serious commitment and he was always balking at the idea so you finally felt as though you could move forward and find a man who really wanted you forever. Now that the dust has settled and you’ve experienced life without your ex boyfriend you’re realizing that it’s not all you thought it would be. You miss him and it’s become painfully clear to you that you made a horrible mistake. Is there any way you can recover from this or is it time to let him go for good?

Love is a conflicting emotion at times. There are moments when we can feel utterly and hopelessly in love with our man and the next moment we’re pushing him out the door for something he did that hurt us. This is essentially what is happening to you right now. You’ve done the pushing and now you just want another chance to tell him that you realize what a perfect partner he is and how much you truly do need him. It’s important for you to understand that it’s very likely that he’s feeling much the same way you are. Granted he may not have wanted the break up, but since that day he’s likely cycled from loving you and craving your presence again to being glad the split happened. You need to gauge where his emotions are right now if you want to get him to even consider the possibility of a renewed romance with you.

Call him. Yes, it’s truly that simple. Make the call when you feel you won’t come apart emotionally at the seams. Ask him how he is and what’s new in his life. You’re really just fishing for information at this point. If he offers that he’s already involved with someone new, you need to seriously consider whether you’re willing to upend that in an effort to salvage what you two might have. It’s wise to not push for a meeting if he is indeed seeing another woman. Just wish him well and take some concentrated time to think about whether or not it’s worth breaking up something that may be promising for him. Sometimes love is much more about self sacrifice than pursuing your own desires.

If he’s free and single, that’s a completely different and much more exciting story for you. During your reconnection phone call ask him to meet you for coffee. Make it at a time that is most convenient for him and at a location that is close to where he is. When you two meet in person, don’t come on too strong. Your goal for his encounter is to apologize and to let him know that distance has given you an enlightened perspective and you regret breaking up with him.

Don’t expect him to be responsive right away. Chances are very good that he won’t be. He’s going to be apprehensive and wary, as he should be. If that is indeed the case, just give him the time he needs to process your apology. Contact him again in a couple of weeks and suggest a friend type outing, be it a movie or lunch. If he accepts you know that he’s still interested in you too.

It’s impossible to know what the future will hold for you two, but if you’re determined to right your wrong and get him back, don’t give up. He’s your guy, fight for him.

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