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My Ex Boyfriend Texted Me Saying He Misses Me! Why You Need to Calm Down

My ex boyfriend texted me saying he misses me!” If you’re the woman saying that, and you’re still madly in love with the ex boyfriend in question, you’re jumping for joy, aren’t you? Why wouldn’t you be? The man you’ve been longing for has finally come to his senses and he wants you back, right? You can’t believe it and you’re already planning on how great things will be this time around. Wait! Before you start preparing for when you two will move back in together, take a deep breath. As much as you want his text to mean he still wants to be with you, you’re reading too much into it. Just because he says he misses you, that doesn’t mean anything substantial and you can’t risk investing your heart in it.

Men and women don’t see text messages in quite the same light post break up. To us an unexpected text message from our ex boyfriend is a beacon in the darkness. We see it as a sign of promise and hope. If it happens to say that our ex boyfriend misses us, we see it as a guiding light towards the future we’ve been dreaming of. Yes, it sounds dramatic, but you know, as well as I do, that once your ex boyfriend sends a message like that, your heart leaps and you can’t stop staring at your phone. You want it to mean that he’s forgotten the pain of the break up, he’s realized that you’re the love of his life and he’s ready to let bygones be bygones.

It probably means nothing more than he’s lonely in the moment and saw your number in his phone so decided he’d send you a text. This is particularly true if you get that text message late at night. A man who has nothing on his plate, might want to stir something up by reaching out to an ex girlfriend. Men instinctively know that if they say they miss us, we’ll melt. It’s one of our triggers. It makes us weak in the knees and we become very receptive.

How to Respond When Your Ex Texts You

If you haven’t already texted him back telling him that you miss him too, consider yourself fortunate. The moment you do that, you’re opening yourself up to him again. If he’s a man who just wants to see where he still stands with you, that’s all the fuel he needs for his egotistical fire and he’ll disappear into the ether again. If he’s still a little starved in that department, he may engage you in a conversation, via text, about how much you really miss him.

The advice you need to follow is very straightforward. When your ex boyfriend does text you to say he misses you, don’t respond immediately. Give it at least an hour. Consider that you could be busy at work, out with friends, or taking a long, relaxing bath, depending on the time of day. If you allow some time to pass, you’ll find more clues in his reply to you.

What should you text when you finally do send him a message? Say something that doesn’t speak of any emotional commitment. You may text back, “It’s so great to hear from you. How have you been?” If you want to acknowledge his text directly, then send a message back that does just that, “This put a smile on my face. How are things in your life?” Both those scenarios open the lines of communication wide open and put the ball back in your ex’s court.

If he’s serious about missing you and wanting to see you again, let him make the suggestion of meeting somewhere. This is truly the best way to gauge what he’s feeling without risking your own emotional health. You don’t want to get your hopes up based on his one text. Let him show you, through his actions, that he’s serious about working out the problems you two faced. If he never asks you to get together, his motivations may not be aligned with yours. In that case, keep things friendly and keep your heart out of it.

There’s a science to handling text messages from your ex boyfriend and there’s actually a way to use texts to get him to crave you again. You can learn more about how it works, here. It’s powerful and effective.

Your Boyfriend Needs a Break! How to Use This to Your Advantage

When any woman writes to me saying that her boyfriend needs a break, my heart drops for her. Although it’s not an official break up, it’s an obvious, glaring and emotionally charged sign that the relationship isn’t giving him what he wants anymore. Before you reach for the panic button and destroy the relationship in the process, read on and absorb my advice on what to do if your boyfriend needs some time or distance.

Listen Carefully to What Your Boyfriend is Telling You When He Says He Needs a Break

Being in a relationship is great, especially one you know is going to last a very long time. That is why when that one conversation comes, it always leaves you surprised. It sometimes comes even when things seem as though they could not get any better. So if you have recently been told by your significant other that they need a break, do not fear. It does not mean they want to break up with you. All it means is they need some time to themselves. Maybe they want just a bit of time to think about things. Maybe their life is a little complicated at the moment and they need to be away in order to sort it out. So if this is happening to you, what you should do is follow these tips.

Be supportive. The worst thing you can do is not give him the time he needs. If you start telling him how you cannot be without him, it is not that he does not care it is just that he needs time for himself. So you need to give him that. Let him know that it is fine to you that he wants to be away from you for awhile. It does not mean he is breaking up with you, it just means he needs time to think about things.

Do not get nervous. You do not want to swarm him with phone calls or texts when he wants time alone. What you need to do is show him you respect his choice. You cannot force someone to stay with you. If they want to be away for awhile then there is nothing you can do to change that. It is a choice they made themselves. And you cannot sway them away from that.

Look for the Positive When Your Boyfriend Needs a Break

Lastly, one of the best things about taking a break is that it will give him the opportunity to miss you. It might be difficult to take time away from him but he will come back wanting to be with you more than ever. You just need to have faith and trust in him. No relationship will succeed without those two things. So just remember that he is not leaving you for good, it is just for awhile.

Sometimes a break may not seem like the best thing, but it might be just what your relationship needs. If you feel the urge to call him, just keep in mind he still loves you and will come back. All it will take is time and you need to give him that.

Understanding the triggers within him that will make him crave you again is the best way to get him to come running back to you. You have the inner power to make your relationship with your ex boyfriend a lifelong, emotionally enriching and mutually nurturing connection.

How to Make Your Ex Boyfriend Chase You! Tactics to Win Him Back

Wouldn’t life be grand if there was a way we could keep our relationship in a loving and healthy place forever? We all wish for that when we’re madly in love with our boyfriend. Sadly, sometimes things go astray and even though you adore him utterly and completely he decides that he needs a break, time apart or some distance. Nothing hurts emotionally quite as deeply as having to come to terms with a break up when you still very much want to be with your partner. You panic inside and that tends to make you do things you’ll later regret. Most of us who have been in this situation have resorted to things like calling our ex boyfriend endlessly, sending him text message after text message and even bombarding his cell with calls all begging him to come back. In the moment all of these things seem reasonable and logical. They’re not. If you want to know how to make your ex boyfriend chase you it has to begin by understanding where he is emotionally and why leaving him alone is the best possible move you can make.

Your Ex Boyfriend Isn’t Processing the Break Up The Same Way You Are

Women and men vary greatly when it comes to how they react to the end of a relationship. As women we mourn the loss in a very overt way. We usually are comfortable sharing all the sordid details of the collapse of our relationship with friends. We don’t see a problem in replaying the actual moment of the break up over and over again in our minds, and we just don’t want to let go of the possibility that the relationship can still be repaired.

Most men actually go into avoidance mode after the break up. They push all of the conflicting emotions they are feeling to the back of their mind and they focus on other things. That’s often the reason you’ll find a man who just broke up with his girlfriend out at a club. He’s likely not looking for a replacement for her. He’s just trying to drown out the host of emotions that are trying to push their way to the top.

A man generally needs at least a few weeks to absorb and process a break up. He has to do that on his own terms and no amount of pressure from his ex girlfriend to get back together is going to make a difference. You are essentially wasting your time and his if you continue to chase your ex boyfriend anymore. You have to allow him the space he needs to decide what he truly feels and you must allow him the opportunity to do that on his own.

Take a Few Weeks to Evaluate Where Your Life Is

One of the best pieces of advice any woman can heed after a break up is to be selfish and focus all of her emotional energy inward. You may feel compelled to reach out to your ex boyfriend in a continuing effort to get him to come back, but you’ll fare much better if you leave him alone for a minimum of three weeks.

That can feel like an eternity to a woman who is caught up in the turmoil of a break up, but you need to view this as a positive for the benefits it’s going to bring to your own life. You’re going to discover that with each day that passes that you don’t waste trying to get your ex boyfriend to speak with you, you’ll become stronger emotionally.

The time right after a break up is actually ideal for a woman to start looking at what she wants to accomplish in her own life. These goals shouldn’t include an ex boyfriend. These are the goals that you personally want to achieve and it may range from getting a better job, to finishing up your degree to even taking an adventurous vacation to a destination you’ve never been before.

Get out a calendar and plan things for you to do, independent of your ex boyfriend, for the next month. Fill up your schedule with pursuing your dreams, and also spending time with close friends and family who can give you the much needed emotional support you need at this time.

By the end of the month, you are going to realize that you need to decide whether chasing your ex is the right thing for you to do. If you haven’t heard from him by now, expect to hear from him very soon. Once a man sorts through his post break up emotions, he’ll typically want to reconnect with his ex just to see where she is emotionally. You’ll be able to show him that you’re strong, independent and looking forward to your own life. That’s going to make you that much more desirable to him and before you even realize it, he’s going to be the one chasing after you trying to get you to reconsider whether breaking up is the right decision.

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